Ever meet someone, the chemistry is there, the conversation is good... but deep down you're still not sure?
It's as if we go around with this picture in our heads of who we are supposed to be with. I'm not talking about an exact science, but I think y'all know what I mean.
I'm also not talking about just the superficial. There could be any number of reasons that this person just doesn't match what you had in mind when you would think about who you were supposed to end up with. Maybe they don't have a job, maybe they have 5 kids, maybe they are too tall, maybe they practice a different faith/religion than you do, they may even be of a different ethnic background and your family won't approve. There could be any number of reasons why you hesitate to pursue the relationship.
I think what I'm trying to wrap my head around is that no relationship is perfect. Some things you can "get over" and some things... you shouldn't have to "get over".
I can't say that I have ever given up on a guy, when the more important things like chemistry and personality clicked but he didn't match my "ideal mate". There are many different ways to feel attracted to someone. And sometimes that's more important than the old "tall, dark and handsome" cliche.
Maybe it's because I'm getting older - but that illustrious "deal breaker" list is getting smaller and smaller. Some people may think this means I'm willing to or considering settling, but I think it's really about maturing and realizing what is important in life and in relationships.
My rhetorical question to you, dear readers, is - why are you holding back? Why aren't you with him or her? Is it because when you picture what a gf or bf should be like or look like, the person you ARE attracted to physically and intellectually doesn't fit that image?
Be careful, if that's true. You may just be giving up on the right person. Or at least the right NOW person. ;)
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